Recap: You've been seeing this guy for about two weeks. He's taken you out to dinner twice (and you chose where the second time). Time for date #3: The movies
Planning the date:
1. Work together to decide on a movie
2. Remember: its what YOU want to see, not what he likes, right?
Getting Ready:
1. Dress as though it a casual diner. All guidelines for that apply here.
2. Showing a bit more skin is allowed
3. No cleavage, please
4. Showing a bit more skin does not mean wearing low-rise jeans
The date itself:
1. Each of you pays for you own ticket
2. He pays for anything else that either of you want
3. If you are feeling up to it, reach for his hand (but keep watching the movie)
4. When he takes you home, drop (subtle) clues about how much fun you had
5. If you are feeling bold, give him a kiss before you close the door.
6. Follow you heart (That's too close for comfort to Jimminy Cricket's Trademark cliche...) and see where it leads
Up next:
Date #4: Time to get serious
November 9, 2009
Date #3: Guidelines for men
Recap: Well done, guys. You took her to two different restaurants, and she choose the second. Now, its time for a new challenge:
Date 3: The movies
Planning the date:
1. Work together to decide on a movie
2. Lean toward something romantic (Yes, I know - this might bother you but its worth your while)
3. Its more about what she wants to see than what you want to see
Getting Ready:
Dress as though it a casual diner. All guidelines for that apply here.
The date itself:
1. Each of you pays for you own ticket
2. You pay for anything else she wants (Popcorn, soda, candy, ect)
3. You just met two weeks ago, right? This means its too soon to pull off the fake yawn trick :)
4. No means no. End of story
5. However, if she reaches for you hand (who knows, right), take it gently and keep watching the movie
6. When the movie ends, and its time to take her home, ask her if she had fun. Watch for the signs that she did here....
7. The 'kiss at the door' guidelines still apply, but never be more forceful than she is. You know exactly what I mean, right?
Up next:
Date #3: Guidelines for Women
Date 3: The movies
Planning the date:
1. Work together to decide on a movie
2. Lean toward something romantic (Yes, I know - this might bother you but its worth your while)
3. Its more about what she wants to see than what you want to see
Getting Ready:
Dress as though it a casual diner. All guidelines for that apply here.
The date itself:
1. Each of you pays for you own ticket
2. You pay for anything else she wants (Popcorn, soda, candy, ect)
3. You just met two weeks ago, right? This means its too soon to pull off the fake yawn trick :)
4. No means no. End of story
5. However, if she reaches for you hand (who knows, right), take it gently and keep watching the movie
6. When the movie ends, and its time to take her home, ask her if she had fun. Watch for the signs that she did here....
7. The 'kiss at the door' guidelines still apply, but never be more forceful than she is. You know exactly what I mean, right?
Up next:
Date #3: Guidelines for Women
Guidelines for date #2
Recap: Okay, you both survived date #1. What about date #2?
This is an easy one. It's the exact same thing as date #1. There is one key change (for the men):
Ask her where she would like to go this time.
Women do not need to change anything
Up next:
Planning date #3: Guidelines for men
This is an easy one. It's the exact same thing as date #1. There is one key change (for the men):
Ask her where she would like to go this time.
Women do not need to change anything
Up next:
Planning date #3: Guidelines for men
The date itself and afterword: Guidelines for Women
Recap: He has taken you to the restaurant. Now what?
1. Accept anything he does to help or assist you
2. Make conversation to break the ice. He might be a nervous wreck. Try to make that less of a burden for him
3. Test him occasionally (Pretend to shiver and see if he offers you his jacket)
4. Don't order wine (wait for date #2)
5. If the waiter or waitress asks if you want desert, its your job to answer, not his
6. It's his responsibility to pay the bill, not yours (this includes the tip)
When you arrive back home:
1. Thank him if you had fun
2. If you are feeling brave (or think you might be falling in love with him) lean in to kiss him - on the cheek (no lips yet)
Up next: Guidelines for date #2
1. Accept anything he does to help or assist you
2. Make conversation to break the ice. He might be a nervous wreck. Try to make that less of a burden for him
3. Test him occasionally (Pretend to shiver and see if he offers you his jacket)
4. Don't order wine (wait for date #2)
5. If the waiter or waitress asks if you want desert, its your job to answer, not his
6. It's his responsibility to pay the bill, not yours (this includes the tip)
When you arrive back home:
1. Thank him if you had fun
2. If you are feeling brave (or think you might be falling in love with him) lean in to kiss him - on the cheek (no lips yet)
Up next: Guidelines for date #2
November 8, 2009
The date itself and afterward: Guidelines for Men
Recap: You are now at the restaurant. Now what?
1. Open and close the (car) door for her
2. Walk her to the door
3. Open it (and let her go inside first)
4. When seated, push her chair in
5. If applicable, help her take her jacket off.
6. Talk to her (Without using the word 'like', I know its tough, but try your best :) )
7. No wine or beer (Not until date #2)
8. If your meal comes first, don't start eating until her's arrives.
9. If she does not order desert, don't order any either
10. If she shivers, offer her your jacket
11. It's your responsibility to pay the bill (this includes the tip)
After the date:
1. When leaving: Do the same things you did when you arrived
2. When you drop her, ask her if she enjoyed dinner (If her response is something similar to, "I did. Thank you," then you performed very well.
3. If she leans in to kiss you (not very likely) allow it and don't be forceful or overpowering
Up next:
The date itself and afterword: Guidelines for Women
1. Open and close the (car) door for her
2. Walk her to the door
3. Open it (and let her go inside first)
4. When seated, push her chair in
5. If applicable, help her take her jacket off.
6. Talk to her (Without using the word 'like', I know its tough, but try your best :) )
7. No wine or beer (Not until date #2)
8. If your meal comes first, don't start eating until her's arrives.
9. If she does not order desert, don't order any either
10. If she shivers, offer her your jacket
11. It's your responsibility to pay the bill (this includes the tip)
After the date:
1. When leaving: Do the same things you did when you arrived
2. When you drop her, ask her if she enjoyed dinner (If her response is something similar to, "I did. Thank you," then you performed very well.
3. If she leans in to kiss you (not very likely) allow it and don't be forceful or overpowering
Up next:
The date itself and afterword: Guidelines for Women
Heading to the restaurant: Guidelines for Women
Recap: He has come to pick you up. Now what?
1. Turn the iPhone/Cell Phone/Blackberry off and keep it off.
2. Wait for him to come to you.
3. Walk with him to the car or truck. Accept any assistance he offers.
4. When speaking, attempt to do so normally (without every other word being 'like'; it an adjective, not a verb (it's easy for me, I never picked that habit up))
Up next:
The date itself: Guidelines for Men
1. Turn the iPhone/Cell Phone/Blackberry off and keep it off.
2. Wait for him to come to you.
3. Walk with him to the car or truck. Accept any assistance he offers.
4. When speaking, attempt to do so normally (without every other word being 'like'; it an adjective, not a verb (it's easy for me, I never picked that habit up))
Up next:
The date itself: Guidelines for Men
Picking her up
Recap: You are heading over to pick her up. Now what?
1. Turn the radio off and leave it off. Same with the iPhone/Cell Phone/Blackberry
2. Park somewhere and go to her. Don't make her come to you.
3. Walk her to the car/truck. Be sure you open and close the door for her. Help her get in if needed.
4. Ask her if she needs help buckling up
5. Talk to her, and attempt to speak normally (without every other word being 'like'; it an adjective, not a verb (it's easy for me, I never picked that habit up))
6. Topics to avoid: Sports, politics, and religion
7. Leave the MP3 player at home
8. Bring an umbrella if it's raining heavily
Up next:
Heading to the restaurant: Guidelines for women
1. Turn the radio off and leave it off. Same with the iPhone/Cell Phone/Blackberry
2. Park somewhere and go to her. Don't make her come to you.
3. Walk her to the car/truck. Be sure you open and close the door for her. Help her get in if needed.
4. Ask her if she needs help buckling up
5. Talk to her, and attempt to speak normally (without every other word being 'like'; it an adjective, not a verb (it's easy for me, I never picked that habit up))
6. Topics to avoid: Sports, politics, and religion
7. Leave the MP3 player at home
8. Bring an umbrella if it's raining heavily
Up next:
Heading to the restaurant: Guidelines for women
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